Yet another attempt at understanding----

RELATIONSHIPS Sayesha's blog post on relationships, kinda got me thinking! I know the more we talk about it, the more complicated it gets! Somehow, we all have our own perceptions and expectations out of relationships. Neverthless, this is one aspect of human being that sets us apart from animals. Maybe that's why we think about it and spend time analyzing it. I guess the picture gets clearer as and when you try to solve the puzzle.. My mom had told me once;"To fall in love, you have to first love yourself" It does not mean that you turn into a narcissist, but its important that you love yourself for what you are, to appreciate what qualities you possess. Consider for e.g. trivial cases, such as these:-) All examples are provided from "Girl-land", don't really know what goes around on the other side...(the guy land, I mean;) A tall girl who does not find a guy who matches her height. Even though she has an asset to die for she keeps thinking of it as a negative characteristic and wishes she were few inches shorter. A short girl thinks, she is too short A beautiful long-haired girl is rejected by a guy on the grounds of being too traditional. Then follows a desperate attempt at revamping your persona. A hip, suave girl is rejected by a guy who thinks she is "too modern".What next, "Pooh bani Parvati":) A rich/successful girl rejects a guy coz thinking he is after her money/fame.. So in any circumstances, each of one is unhappy with something or the other and craves for something that she does not possess. Virtue turns into a drawback, insecurity.. People try to fit themselves into somebody else's mould..to come close to someone else's expectations out of him/her. They try to make themselves so much tailor-made, so that they lose themselves in the context. They end up being everything but being themselves. That's sad. Like it was said in the movie "Mohabattein""Koi pyaar kare, to tumse pyaar kare, tum jaise ho, waise pyaar kare, tumko badal ke jo pyaar kare, who pyaar nahi sauda hai" [If someone loves you, he should love you for you and for what you are, someone who tries to change you, is a trader and not a lover] What is the point in changing your inner self? Regretting something that is unique to you? Only for a person, who probably is in love with you for all the wrong reasons. I guess, change should occur only if you desire it for your betterment, and not coz someone wants to see you that way..